Tuesday, August 31, 2010

One Big Obstacle Course!















Picture Credit: Geoffrey Burkholder in one of his contemplative moments, ya gotta be quick with the camera for these moments.

Geoff calls me yesterday while I was at the grocery store. Geoff always calls me with something. He is the boy who wakes up in the morning ready to do whatever we are not doing. He is the boy who is known by many that I might never meet. He is the horse at the gate ready to bolt. Yet he is my guy who will spend half the night talking of deep and contemplative subjects. What a packed kid.

His friend, Evan, calls him after school to tell Geoff that he was in every one of Evan's classes. Great! Here we go. I placed the affadavit (that piece of paper given to a school district stating your intent of homeschooling)in the portfolios. The school district obviously did not see the paper. This is not a problem except that now Geoff thinks he should just go this year and see what it is like. Obstacle.

The processing we had accomplished a couple of weeks ago when I had made an appointment to see the guidance counselor at the Middle school was fading. A couple of days before I planned to see the counselor Geoff decides he would rather stay home this year. He was realizing what he will be missing if he went to school. Now this obstacle is placed right in our path on the first day of homeschooling.

Yesterday it was close. Why not just send him? What is the big deal? These thoughts float in my mind innocuously, innocently not thinking of what has led us to our decision to home school....believing that God led us to this decision.

Staying on course with homeschooling has probably been one of the most challenging things I have yet to do! These obstacles are not something I step over lightly or process carelessly. What if this is meant to be? Am I keeping Geoff from significant opportunities? My mind hurts thinking of all of this! What if, what if, what if? I have said it and I will say it again; swimming upstream against the culture is really hard. Why can't Lynn and I just live like the rest?

God has led us to home school and for now this is what we are to do, I think...........I know, I hope, I pray. Would you pray for me?

Monday, August 30, 2010

To Lead or Be Led? This is the Question.













Picture Credit: Jesse Burkholder, an industrious and busy guy. Can you trust him to clean your car? Does Bob Treichler own a vacumm? That should tell ya!



"Chris, you can fit everything into your Chevette and what you can not fit, come back for it next weekend." With that sentence I retrieved sanity into our first day of home schooling for the 2010-2011 year. Chris agreed and it meant he could leave whenever he wanted, we were all happy.

Last night as I was saying goodnight to Jesse he adamantly requested that tomorrow he be signed up for school, "seriously, mom!" What about when he is seven, can he then? Eight? Nine? Ten? Thirty? Absolutely, thirty sounds great. There are days when I wonder what provokes me to home school, a masochistic sense about me?

Nicole came into my bedroom with a clipboard in tow, I am in bed she is obviously not. "Mom, tomorrow I need for you to wake me up before the boys. Do whatever you need to do, shake me, whatever. I want to be finished early. I want to start with math, then science, then reading, then history."

It is hard to doze off with the fourth grader drill Sargent barking out my orders. Does she realize I am not prepared for anything. But I think she is on to something, she is taking charge of her education, pushing me to push her. I am being led. The question is this? Will I allow my children to lead or will I take up the reigns and make them follow me? What is education all about? At the end of my bed I am witnessing the beauty of homeschooling. Oh, God, please let me follow.

I am not really worried about what I am teaching these children,I am convinced I can give out Master Degrees with all the curriculum I have accumulated over the years of homeschooling.This morning I pulled off the shelves curriculum that looked fitting. Curriculum is never wasted! Even if you sell it at your garage sale, someone like me is buying it and using it somewhere along the line.

I love Latin and every year I try to do something with it! I was never good at Latin in all three years of it at Barrington Highschool. The Ivy league bound kids sitting next to me were,but still I loved it. I am determined with these last three to instill a love for it in them. Geoffrey today translating sentences looks up at me and says, "Why are we studying a language that is never spoken?" This is the age old question that plagues many Latin students.

Thank you for the question, Geoff. Latin derivatives in our English language are a dime a dozen! If you know Latin you are able to define words you had never seen before, besides which it is quite easy to learn........I'm sure.

Let us hope that this year will be a year in which I see the beauty of being led. I am also hoping that this is the year I actually keep my cool. Oh, let's hope!

Sunday, August 29, 2010

Let's Begin Another Year of Homeschooling, Shall We?

Blogging is a love hate relationship I have going. Last year I began writing to the President. I emailed him the same letters you see posted on my blog. Of course he never responded but that is not why I wrote him. I needed to keep my heart soft towards this man who seemed to be an impostor. It worked but like many things I bored of it.

As a new "school year" approaches I am talking with many who are doing the same thing I am doing, homeschooling their children. I decided I would go "really" public with my homeschooling. I will let you in on my muddled, opinionated, uncertain, and oft-times completely certain views, impressions, feelings and opinions of home schooling.

I have three older children, one graduated from West Chester this spring, summa cum laude with a teaching degree in High School English. The other begins his third year in college and second year at Kutztown University majoring in music and considering music therapy, and that is still out for grabs. My third oldest is a freshman at Reading Area Community College hoping to study Nursing but presently there is a waiting list for that major.

I have Geoff, my new teenager, entering into eighth grade. Nicole my nine year old will be doing fourth grade work (whatever that means). My youngest, Jesse, I will have the privilege of teaching him to read. Out of all my children, Jesse will be doing the most important work this year. Learning to read is quintessential to learning. If approached with more excitement from the trainer than the trainee there could be potential repercussions, negative repercussions. If the trainee is not being delivered goods when they are ready, shame on the trainer. This is a big year for Jesse and I, finding the right balance.

A couple of years ago on an early morning walk I told God this,"You have to let me know if I should still home school." I was tired of the insecurity I had been plagued with though at that point I had home schooled for eighteen years. The answer I heard loud and clear in my spirit was this, "JUST DO IT." I knew what he meant. The proof,at that point, was in the pudding, two in college and one doing fine in home school high school. But insecurity is never assured by accomplishments it seems.
Why I leave asking God for assurance to the last, I will never know. With those three words, "Just do it" I knew I was doing what I should be doing.

To "Just do it" I needed to say goodbye to the standard I had been using. Sometimes we need to asses what is the standard that we are either being hounded by relentlessly or that we should be using. The educational system as we know it in the U.S.A. is what needed to go. The home school philosophy written by many veteran home schoolers such as Raymond and Dorothy Moore is what I needed to be guided by. However, it was Jesus who needed to be the main educational guide and to Him I needed to direct all my questions knowing He had all the answers.

What relief "Just Do It" has brought to our home school scene is ridiculous almost. Why had I labored so long with such misguided misconceptions? My high schooler who rarely was given math assignments because she was not cooperative with the assignments was thriving in her high school algebra class. We played math games in her elementary years and I always hung my head low from not giving her one hundred problems a day out of the Math text book. God yelled at me, "Look, all you needed to do was play math with her, remember that with your three younger children!" That almost did not seem right, but I had living proof of the results.

Surely my three younger children need to benefit from what my older children have plowed through. Tomorrow I will begin home schooling and here is one of the things I have learned. Flexibility is key and tomorrow will be no exception. My son, Chris, just asked me after church to bring him to college in the morning as opposed to his Dad bringing him today. There goes my desire to get on a schedule. Schedule/schmedule is what I hear God chanting. "But God, you are the one who introduced ORDER!" He is smirking at me. He knows I know we are not talking about order now, we are talking about priorities.

So tomorrow I will start after I return....and deal with the list of things that are occupying my mind such as; I should really do some canning, want to weed the garden, need to clean the garage, need to organize the basement, need to make sense of my room, need to order the children to clean their rooms, need to work on a website, need to plan the class I am teaching at our home school Learning Group,do I have enough breakfast fixings, what to make for lunch, what do I want to teach these three kids this year????????

This is enough to fill a number of brains, why just mine? But if you are a home schooler you know what I am talking about. We have taken on Herculean tasks and sometimes we wonder why we are trying to defy gravity and the laws of nature?! But this is what motivates me, Man I like being with my children and learning with them is extraordinary and having them want to learn with me is marvelous and.......I have three older children who managed to come out of our home school program with baggage of course but maybe we could call it "Carry On" luggage.

Tomorrow I hope to do some math, Latin, reading, and planning. I will let you know how it goes~!

I leave you with this: We are all homeschoolers even if you send your child to school. We all need to know what our children's learning style is, are they learning, what should they be learning and how can we help them. We need to be part of the process. The question for many of us to ask however is this, what truly is education?